In my previous blog, I wrote about what I call “The Magic Secret.” In truth, It’s not secret, and it’s definitely not magic, but for whatever reason, it’s a concept with incredible power that very few people seem to fully grasp. The idea is that, though DAILY personal growth, we can exponentially multiply our own value in order to ATTRACT into our lives more of the success that we want, both personally and professionally.
Jim Rohn, the famous self-development author and speaker, learned this from his mentor:
“If you wish to be wealthy, study wealth.” Of course, we all know that we can learn more about financial success by studying people who are financially successful.
Rohn’s mentor also said: “If you wish to be healthy, study health.” Again, I think we can all grasp the idea that good health habits can be learned by studying people who exhibit such habits.
But then Rohn’s mentor added: “If you wish to be happy, study happiness.” This one caught Jim off guard. He didn’t know that happiness could also be a study.
In truth, virtually everything we want in life is something we can study and learn. Through the process of ongoing learning, the main I idea I want to convey is that we can INTERNALIZE the qualities that we want to develop. Once internalized, these qualities become an inherent part of our daily thoughts and actions. The fruit of this development is that we end up living the life that we want to live.
So what are some things we can learn, then internalize, in order to have greater success? A few ideas here …
FIRST, we must learn and internalize EMPOWERING BELIEFS.
Three examples here:
You can choose the meaning for any event that happens in your life.
I first learned a version of this from Tony Robbins, and this idea was really cemented into my mind when I read “Man’s Search For Meaning” by Viktor Frankl. Frankl was a prisoner in the Nazi death camps, and endured the harshest possible circumstances. Yet he shared this valuable insight:
“The last of one’s freedoms is the ability to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.”
The bottom line is that, when difficult circumstances show up in our lives, we have the ability AND THE CHOICE to quickly redirect our thinking …. to the lessons, the silver lining, and to what we will do next. Choosing to think in this manner empowers us and enables us to handle life’s ups and downs with grace and confidence. This is simply a better way to live.
Life gets better by change, not by chance.
As we navigate the twisty path of life, we will experience plenty of successes and plenty of failures. This is a natural part of the journey. Unfortunately, some people continue down the same path year after year rather than choosing to explore a potentially better path. What’s important, when it comes to experience, is that we learn from it, that we recognize what things are inside our own control, and that we make positive changes as each new journey unfolds before us. By improving ourselves – improving our skills, making better decisions, taking proper actions, establishing better habits – we can improve our results in life with great certainty.
What’s right is more important than who’s right.
It’s vital to remember the ultimate reasons for everything that we do. The purpose of relationships, for example, is for love, harmony, peace, and companionship, NOT for winning an argument. Oftentimes, people argue over whose fault some minor thing was, when ultimately, it doesn’t even matter! It’s important to lose your ego, especially in relationships. In all that you do, remember WHY you are doing it.
Condition your mind to internalize these key, empowering beliefs. You condition your mind by REMINDING yourself of good ideas, over and over again. Daily personal growth is a key part of this process.
The second thing to internalize is THE SKILL OF LEADERSHIP.
You can get a title from your work, but in order to be a leader, people have to follow you. Leadership is about moving other people or helping them to move. This requires integrity and trust, a vision that others are excited about, and competence in the areas in which you are developing others.
Most of all, leadership is about how you make other people FEEL. Do you give people energy through your interactions with them? Do you leave people with increased motivation? Do you inspire action?
Or do you drain energy with a negative leadership style?
It’s so important to learn some basic leadership concepts, which apply to business settings, as well as parenting and other important leadership role outside of business ….
- Avoid telling people what you DON’T want them to do, and instead learn to tell people what you DO want them to do.
- Avoid harping on something that’s already done, and instead learn to teach people what to do next time.
- Most of all, in leadership and influence, there’s seldom a reason to get angry. When you use a stern tone of voice toward anyone, their typical response is to get put their guard up and become defensive, not receptive to your guidance. Influence is compromised when you present it in an uncomfortable manner.
The greatest leaders learn to influence through positive leadership. That’s what inspires others, and gets people to follow you. Remember, you can’t PUSH to be a leader. You have to bring people with you.
The THIRD thing to internalize is the CONCEPT OF SELF-AWARENESS.
What are your greatest strengths right now? What are your biggest opportunities for growth? Consider these questions from the perspective of what I’ve already shared above …
Is there opportunity in your leadership ability and style?
Is there opportunity in your consistent beliefs and thought patterns?
Denis Waitley once said:
“It’s not who you are that holds you back. It’s what you think you’re not.”
That was one of the most profound quotes I’ve ever heard. Consider all the times in which we label ourselves as “not good” at something or “can’t do” that. For most of us, real success starts with our own thinking.
Through DAILY, consistent exposure to good ideas and great people, the repetition of important concepts begins to truly take hold, and ultimately, we INTERNALIZE the ideas that will be most valuable for the future, for ourselves and for all those around us.
By becoming a person of EXTREME VALUE, you can and will attract into your life circumstances, relationships, and achievements that are beyond your wildest dreams today.
Enjoy the journey!
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